So. Recently I was posted in one of the chubby lolita inspo threads and as usual people started debating about my size. Am I fat? Am I chubby? Am I considered plus sized? Are my arms too big, are my legs too small? Where is the cut-off point? Is it when you can’t shop in… Continue reading I’m a Bit Fat, and That’s Okay.
Today’s Lolita Blog Carnival Topic is to discuss the changes you’ve seen in lolita since you started wearing the fashion. While I think the topic probably refers to changes in styles or trends, the changes I’ve noticed most about lolita are the community aspects – so that is what I’ll be focusing on in this… Continue reading Lolita Blog Carnival: 4 Ways Lolita Has Changed Since 2006
For the Lolita Blog Carnival’s first topic of the new year, participants are being asked to discuss what it takes to run a well balanced community. I think that this question is complicated – what type of community are we looking for? Do we want our community to be large, with massive weekend events and… Continue reading 3 Characteristics of a Well Balanced Community
A few months ago everything I’ve been working on fell apart. Over the course of a few weeks all of the events I’d planned were cancelled and the shop I’d put so much time into curating was closed. I couldn’t adapt because I didn’t see it coming, and as a result I lost the momentum… Continue reading Learning to Let Go and Move On
I started wearing lolita back in 2006, and the narrative of lolita as some form of feminist principle put into practice has been around since at least that time. I can very clearly remember discussing with friends and community members how Lolita fashion was one way of expressing feminist ideals – specifically because many girls… Continue reading Lolita Fashion is not a Feminist Paradise.
In the western lolita fashion world we have two distinct types of communities: Local communities where people get together to make friends and attend events, and the larger online communities where people can discuss latest releases, trends, and shop. It is true that occasionally girls find their local community first, but I think it… Continue reading Tips for Dealing with Anxiety at a Meetup
I’ve been part of the lolita subculture for nearly ten years now, and one term that has always really bothered me is “ita.” The term supposedly comes from the japanese word itai, which means ouch or painful, and is generally used to describe new lolitas who don’t have a firm grasp of the lolita aesthetic or… Continue reading Why I don’t like the term ‘Ita’